The cliche about marriage is that it is “hard work.” The work of marriage is – Compromise and Connection. Couples have to work hard to compromise, because most people usually just want our own way. The area this surprising is connection. Couples have to work to create regular shared experiences that create connection.
Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee interviewed successful couples to find out how people define a happy marriage. This list is the work of marriage. These areas create the soil that grows compromise and connection. They report their results in a helpful book called The Good Marriage. Here is a list of things they found that go into the making of a happy marriage: