Somehow we get lost. The busyness and stress of life distract us from what is important. We become critical consumers looking or demanding for someone to meet our needs. The interesting way that God made us is that true happiness is found giving to others. Our biggest challenge and responsibility is to serve and love our spouse.
Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law. Romans 13:8-10
Your spouse is your first neighbor. Everything about your faith and relationship with Christ is summed up in how well you love your spouse. Your biggest responsibility in marriage is to love your spouse, not to change them. You are to love your mate. Then allow God to change them, and in the process change you. The interesting and amazing thing is when you allow God to change you, somehow He changes your spouse also.