Sometimes are reaction to the mess creates an even bigger mess. Your reaction to any event determines the level of growth that happens in you and the people you love. Learn to respond not react. The difference is attitude. When you react it is from pain and fear, and that is usually what you give to others, pain and fear. When you respond you are being proactive with the desire to give solutions, hope and love. Learn to put a few seconds pause in and respond not react.