Stop looking outside Christ for validation and approval. Life doesn’t have to be a tireless effort to establish yourself, justify yourself, validate yourself. Don’t let other people define your happiness. Instead of trying so hard to manipulate life, take care of yourself on the inside. Then all those other attributes you’re so desperately seeking will find you eventually.
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me – Galatians 2:20
The challenge ahead is that we must also allow ourselves to surrender to the truth of scripture before we will understand its validation. We must be willing to leave everything and follow him. Leave the desire to please others more than God. Leave the desire to be served and serve others instead. Surrender is the key to validation. Don’t cling, control, or manipulate with fear or shame. Surrender will bring the power, confidence and peace of God’s plan for you bringing validation and purpose to your life.
For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s will save it – Mark 8:35
We need to use scripture as a source for personal validation and defense. Scripture is a shield against the arrows of doubt and shame. We tend to forget or minimize its authority as God’s word. God wants to confirm to us that Jesus came to secure what we could never secure for ourselves. Rest in the truth that God has a plan for your life. Daily turn your life over to him. Look to the Father and you will find in scripture that confirms your validation.