Speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind – 1 Thessalonians 5:11 MSG
Marriage is a journey friends growing together toward God. The problem is that discouragement, challenges and life get in the way of enjoying the journey. The pots holes of discouragement, stress and conflict problem can weaken hope. Every journey must include hope. Hope is a confident expectation for something, but hope must have a foundation. You must grow a foundation of hope that will guide you along the journey.
You are not together by accident. This was not a mistake. Their is a purpose and meaning for the two of you to be together. Find or rediscover why you are together. God has you together to make him famous and to grow you into the image of Christ. After over thirty years of marriage I am convinced that God has used my wife as part of my curriculum of Christlikeness. I have learned more about love, sacrifice, joy, patience and relationships through my marriage than anything else I have experienced. I know that God has used my marriage to change me and the world I live in. So often we see the challenges of marriage as hindrance to the life we want. I am convinced that God will use your marriage to form Christlikeness in you. The joy is the knowledge that in this journey God will give you Himself, and that is where real happiness is found.
Show your spouse that you believe in them. It is so important to know that someone is on your side, especially when you’ve made a mistake. Be generous with your kindness and support while showing unconditional love. Offer a shoulder to cry on, and a listening ear. Remind your partner of the wonderful qualities that you fell in love with, and why they are the person you love and look forward to growing old with.
I know that this paragraph is hard for some…. because you don’t feel this. Ask God to daily show you the small things and ways that are unique and special about them. Remember they were made in the image of God, so in them resides something strong and beautiful. Show gratitude for who they. In time gratitude will produce love. Love can come back, allowing you to say, that you believe in your spouse also.
You and your marriage are not alone. This truth has brought more comfort than anything else in my life. No matter what happens in your life or your marriage you are not alone, God is with you. Nothing escapes Him or surprises Him. He has a plan to prosper and increase your life. That plan and hope will come alive as you invite him into the journey with your spouse.
Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 MSG