“You Scratch My Back…. I’ll Scratch Yours” – this doesn’t work in marriage
We grow up to believe that “I take care of you, now you take care of me”. We keep score, we create deals and contracts in our head. The concern for couples is that deal making and contracts, quid pro quo, mostly operate in unhappy marriages. Don’t keep score. Build connection and strengthen your relationship by freely and regularly offering each other positive actions and responses.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13