Quick tip – you don’t need to agree with your spouse in order to understand them or to validate their feelings.  

You may not always agree, but you have to try understand the intended meaning of their words and heart.  Take the time to understand what they are feeling and thinking.  This means time spent talking and asking questions before you defend your view.  The journey of understanding your mate is vital to staying connected to each other. Take the time and effort to grasp what is important in their heart. If it means enough for them to argue or disagree with you, then it should mean enough for you to try to understand them. You may not agree but you can emphatically understand.