I am starting to ask myself am I serving others more than I serve my spouse? Who or what gets the best of me?  Would the people I work with see me as a servant hearted leader, and my wife and family see me as difficult and demanding?  My desire is to serve and love my wife. I want that to be actions not just words. What comes to your mind if you ask yourself these questions?

I pray and serve others every day.  Some would say I pray professionally.  Each day people come to me and ask me to pray and talk about their problems.  I pray out loud or silently for each person that comes into my office.  My desire is to serve them and meet them at their point of need.  To be aware, present and attentive in the hard, hurting, and ugly places of peoples lives with the heart of a servant.  In my head is the thought “I want those that know me the most to love me the most not those who know me the least”.  Your best love, service and care should be for your family, not just the leftovers.

Then he said, “Do you understand what I have done to you? You address me as ‘Teacher’ and ‘Master,’ and rightly so. That is what I am. So if I, the Master and Teacher, washed your feet, you must now wash each other’s feet. I’ve laid down a pattern for you. What I’ve done, you do. I’m only pointing out the obvious. A servant is not ranked above his master; an employee doesn’t give orders to the employer. If you understand what I’m telling you, act like it—and live a blessed life. John 13: 12-17 MSG

Look at the passage above.  Jesus laid down a pattern.  The best leader, I think the best person is the servant.  Sometimes we are so busy serving others we forget our spouse.  Or we are caught in the power struggle of whose right that we don’t want to vulnerably serve them.  Love has to be an action.  The action of serving and caring for each other is a good place to start.

Husbands how are you serving your wives?  This weekend are you doing favors for you extended family and friends?  Wives do you serve others with a sweet kind spirit but resent the needs of your spouse?

Jesus said – “If you understand what I’m telling you, act like it—and live a blessed life“. – John 13